I have written, rewritten and deleted this post many times. I don’t like to be controversial or even hint at being controversial. I like to please everyone and be popular. I want everyone to love me. But seeing recent tweets and reading some recent blog posts, I am wondering what do you want from your blog? It is something I’ve been thinking a lot about today.
In the past I have read blog posts about people not feeling welcome in the blogoshpere and particulary from bloggers who I consider to be very popular. I have to say, and I don’t like to rock the boat, but I do feel it is a bit like being at school. You are either in with ‘the group’ or you’re not. And I very much feel that I’m not! But, does this actually matter? When I stopped to think about it, I think not. I have several people who read my blog regularly and leave me lovely comments. This to me is the most important thing. I love to read each and every one of these comments and I am so grateful they take the time to stop by.
I was of course thrilled (and very surprised!) to be listed at number 70 in the Tots 100 index for March. I still think this must have been a mistake. But nevertheless, it made me smile for a few days. But why? I guess although I’m quite a quiet person I crave some attention and I want to be popular and in with the cool girls (and boys)!
I was really pleased when Thea dropped by to pass on a Sunshine Award to me because she enjoys reading my blog. How exciting is that? Someone enjoys reading my blog and took the time to pass on an award. I’ve never been included in the lists for these sort of things. I see them littered all over other people’s blogs but I never get ‘tagged’ for anything. Probably a blessing as I’m sure if I had to list the contents of my handbag I’d lose my few loyal blog readers! One of our friends refers to my handbag as a holdall!
I apologise for the confused rambling but sometimes it seems you just need to say something, get it off your chest and move on! I will probably never be a popular blogger, be approached by dozens of PRs to review cool products or be nominated for a MADs award, but actually as long as you keep leaving me lovely comments I will be more than happy. Normal happy blog posting will now be resumed (please don’t run away lovely readers and commenters – I need your love!) 🙂
I would like to pass the sunshine award onto the following bloggers because I enjoy reading their blogs and I want them to know so:
http://housewifeconfidential.co.uk/
http://attic24.typepad.com/weblog/
http://athomewithmrsm.blogspot.com/
14 comments
fraggierocks says:
Mar 29, 2010
I just love the idea of an online craft diary and I love reading what other people are doing/making. I guess im like you if they like it enough to comment then great but I certainly wont lose sleep if they don’t. 🙂
I long gave up hope of ever being popular online or in real life, I am just too uncool, too meh. It’s rather refreshing lol
Keep up the good work, I love your blog and so does my stomach 😀
TheMadHouse says:
Mar 29, 2010
Do you know what I will never be a popular blogger, as I do what I want, I dont offer platitudes or stoke peoples egos. I dont have PR’s banging at my door, but the one I do have a relationship with is great.
I do have a little fear about the MAD’s, what if no one nominates me, do I want to be nominated. I am not going to tout myself. I have already read posts about people urging others to vote for other peope, you know that is their opinion, so vote for them. Leave other peope to make their own. Sorry I will get off my high horse now
amylane says:
Mar 29, 2010
Thanks Fraggierocks – I’ve never been cool in real life or online, but you’re right – I won’t be losing sleep over such things.
TheMadHouse – thank you for your comments, you are one of my lovely loyal readers and I am really grateful for that. You have said what I was to much of a wimp to say – I don’t like the touting that is going on and I feel it will just be the same old who get the votes. But that’s life. I write my blog for me and for those who enjoy to read it. I’ll get down off my high horse too 🙂
Kat says:
Mar 29, 2010
Ah, now I clicked through to comment before reading to the end and then I see you have been writing nice things about me.
My dear, you are in the cool gang – fact. Your positioning was well deserved as you write a lovely blog, are very active on twitter and are an all round good egg. We may not be in line to win a fancy new laptop *sob* but it wasn’t worrying us last week so it shouldn’t this week. Keep doing what you are doing, send me some cakes and you will find you are as happy with your online home as ever.
xx
amylane says:
Mar 29, 2010
Thanks for your lovely comments Kat, you’re right of course – who needs a fancy laptop anyway? *sob*. I will bring you cakes anytime (although your brownies are to die for so perhaps you should be providing the cake!) x
Sam says:
Mar 29, 2010
Aww, thanks for the Sunshine Award Amy. Although my own blog has only been going a few weeks, I’ve been blogging over at Mums The Blog for a year now, and I have NEVER won an award – until now. So thank you, from one unpopular blogger to another! And I think need to create a brand new award all of your own for that Cheese & Bacon scone recipe!!
amylane says:
Mar 29, 2010
You’re welcome Sam. Glad you enjoyed the recipe 🙂 x
mrsmx says:
Mar 30, 2010
Thanks Amy. I don’t feel like a popular blogger either, I’m not immensely good at it but if one person enjoys reading then its worthwhile to me because I enjoy doing it! The sentiment is right back ‘atcha! I like your blog too.
PS If Kat is getting cakes, I want some too.
Thea says:
Mar 30, 2010
Congrats on the Tots 100 index!
That was my first award too, and I know how you feel about not being in “the circle”, I just blog because I enjoy it and I like share.
amylane says:
Mar 31, 2010
Thanks Thea – I blog because I enjoy it too and that it the whole point of it for me too.
Mrs M – you are very popular blogger and are very good at it, you got a nomination for the MADs. Keep enjoying your blogging, that’s the whole point of it. I would love to send you cakes too and I will bring some when I am up you way (Kat only lives a short drive away!) 🙂
Kat says:
Mar 31, 2010
She never makes cakes fo me…
Margaret says:
Apr 2, 2010
Hi – I have just been looking at the UKFBA to see who my ‘friends’ are today and your name popped up!
Thought I would visit my fellow foodbloggers sites and catch up with them. Both my blog and also myself are older than most blogs, I don’t twitter or facebook and so your posting struck a chord with me! You do some wonderful baking etc and have a lovely blog.
amylane says:
Apr 5, 2010
Hi Margaret, thanks for stopping by and for your kind comments. I am off to have a nosey at your blog 🙂
Kitschy Coo says:
May 11, 2010
Gosh, Amy, I only just found out you mentioned me by chance! Sorry I’ve come so late to the party but thank you for Sunshine Award 🙂 I’m following you now so I won’t miss your posts anymore!
I know how you feel about the coolness factor, I actually have mixed feelings about where I fit into the mummy blogging scene. I find the crafting scene more friendly if I’m honest! Maybe because I’m a better crafter than mother? 😉